How Long Does It Take to 'Meet' Your Love? I found myself thinking that Rebel Wilson is no rebel as she reveals herself in discovering the beautiful landscapes of the female mind, heart, body, and all that is feminine. I also do not think that she surprised anyone when she decided for a journey into the realm of the female and feminine, least of all herself. I would certainly have loved to have met her and gotten to know when she found out she was attracted to women too. Perhaps she has always known this, as her confession to a friend that she was not in love before she met the Latvian lawyer and fashion designer Ramona Agruma might suggest? But why (right) now - Ramona? I can't help thinking of Ramones' Supergirl song, "I got home late last night ...". Rebel has finally come 'home' with Ramona and feels like, "You can tell by the way she walks that she's my girl. You can tell by the way she talks, she rules the world. You can see in her eyes that no one is her chain. She's my girl, my supergirl". Mhm, Rebel (maybe) feels exactly like that - because she has revealed her 'girl' to the whole world because she is so much in love with her, and she 'rules' her world. Even before no one wanted to reveal her love for Ramona to the whole world, Rebel didn't hide her love from anyone, she just chose not to share it on social media and in the media in general. Because who really knows that social networks are not networks socially, even though their very name reveals that they are 'social'. What most people do not know is that the name 'social network' refers to a dimension of the social order that is capitalist and that technology companies are the engine of capitalism, which was revealed by a journalist who wanted to reveal in the media that the Rebel loves a woman and therefore wanted to make money. But Rebel decided to resist and she took things into her own hands and now decides when and how much she wants to reveal her love. Rebel loves in a way 'her-self', not the other. As she meets herself in the beautiful landscapes of her own femininity and the other femininity, she is reinventing herself and getting to know herself in ways and dimensions that she didn't even know were all 'her': she invents herself through the same and not the other and different; she discovers, invents and deepens herself not through the binary but through the singular: that singularity which is spoken of like the one, the primary, the all-encompassing, the omnipresent and the eternal. One of the privileges of "normalcy" is a certain ignorance, and when one is what is accepted as the norm in one's social environment, one does not have to think about it. But as lesbians, our bodies in this world move in very different ways and encounter other bodies in very different ways and places than the bodies of the heterosexual majority, and both gays and lesbians can access the knowledge of bodily, sensual, and sensory pleasure that is almost impossible to access in heterosexual culture. Our 'special' status is that in many ways we are both citizens and exiles, family members and strangers. Most of us were raised as heterosexual(s), many were heterosexual(s), as was the Rebel, and many of us can and often do present ourselves as heterosexual. Most of us know the heterosexual world from the inside and, if we wish, from the margins. We can see it with the precision and depth that binocular vision offers. With the knowledge available to us from our various positions on the margins of society, we can base our inventions about ourselves, our inventions about what is a woman and what is a man, on a truly remarkable understanding of how the concept of man and human society has been shaped, only if we choose. The power available to those who choose to deviate from heterosexual norms can be very great. But Rebel is not on the fringes, she is in the mainstream and that makes her powerful and the importance of her choice all the greater. Indeed, her love for Ramona Agrum is shared by many people around the world, regardless of sexual orientation. Some do it with joy, admiration, adoration, some with disgust, ridicule, and disgrace, but the fact is that she is truly followed by a huge number of people, which puts her, compared to billions of people, at the center and not at the margins of society. But if her choice really has a lot of power, at the same time, the question comes back to me: why now, because I think she has known for some time her attraction to women? Did she do it now, when she is already established, and popular and thinks that this can at best add to her attractiveness and further increase the market demand for her, as it certainly can't harm her career (anymore), or did she really need so much time to accept and embrace her own challenge and set out to discover the as yet undiscovered wonderful landscapes of her own femininity and womanhood? In both cases, I can say that Ramona can be very happy and proud that Rebel has chosen her as her first partner and I am really happy for both of them! And how important her coming out is in terms of being a role model and a good example can also be seen in the fact that many lesbians around the world when they read about her coming out, thought she was joking, it seemed so incomprehensible to them that such a celebrity as Rebel Wilson would be in a relationship with a woman, and that is why it is so important to realize that love between women, even women as famous, admired, capable as Rebel, is possible, worthy and admirable!
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